Stay Safe- and Sane

Over the past several weeks there has been a rash of home robberies in my hometown.  The thieves are targeting houses when nobody is home, breaking a back window with a rock or a propane tank, entering the residence, and stealing easy-to-carry items like laptops, jewelry boxes, and other smaller valuables.

 

There is understandably a ton of heightened emotion around this issue. 

 

People, even those who have not been targeted, feel violated.  They are worried about their own safety, the safety of their families, and belongings.  Our homes are our sanctuaries, and the fact or possibility of them being broken into is scary.

 

But, many are taking to social media in order to fan the flames of fear. 

 

Granted, it is beneficial for us to be aware of what is going on, what to look out for, and what the perpetrators look like.  What cars have been seen. 

 

The uncertainty of whose house will be targeted next can be terrifying!  But that terror can be crippling.

 

Fear caused by this uncertainty can lead to suspecting malice in every bump in the night; every stranger walking down the street; every knock at the door.  I’ve seen posts proclaiming how many bullets would be used, and others describing fear of interacting with any stranger, at home and out in the world. And yet others blaming my town’s teenagers, when no evidence exists that teenagers are involved.  The only people described are white males in their 30s.

A healthy caution is good- being sensible about safety at home and when out and about can usually prevent us from being in a dangerous situation.  Some of these precautions can be:

 

  • Keeping your home’s doors and windows locked when not home and at night.
  • Verifying the identity of anyone coming to the door.  House to house salespeople are required to get a permit in my town, and utility workers will have company identification.  You can always call the company to double-check that an employee is legitimate before opening the door.
  • Home security systems. Here’s an affordable one on Amazon: YI 4pc Home Camera, Wireless IP Security by YI for $99.99 http://amzn.to/2Cf5Lkr
  • Noting and reporting to police any suspicious activity in the neighborhood.
  • Getting to know the neighbors, and watching out for each other’s homes.
  • Being aware of surroundings when out and about.
  • Parking under lights at parking lots or on the street if out after dark.
  • The Buddy System- going out in pairs or more.
  • Getting a dog.
  • Learning to protect yourself.  Martial arts centers can help.  Obtaining a firearm can help  if you obtain a license, learn to use it responsibly, and know the laws about use of deadly force in your state.  A word of caution; guns can be taken from and turned on the owner, and are a desirable item for the thieves to steal, so make sure it is in your control or locked up at all times if you do get one.

This list is by no means exhaustive, but are some good tips to be aware of. 

 

THEN...

 

Breathe.  Go about your life.  Be aware but not afraid.  I know that can be easier said than done, but worrying about something we can’t control zaps vitality and enjoyment from life. 

 

If the worry and stress get to be too much, know that the deep relaxation a Reiki treatment provides can help you regain balanced emotions.  I am available for you by appointment at Milford Body Therapy, 318 New Haven Avenue, Milford, CT.  Email me at shaileen@seekyourcenter.com for more info or to schedule your appointment. 

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Reconnect Through Reiki

Many people I speak with describe to me how they feel disconnected from themselves.  They feel disconnected from family, friends, and the world around them, and they feel like they’re just going through the motions to get through each day.  Their lives, they share, are devoid of peace and fulfillment.

We are not meant to live this way!  

Reiki, an energy healing method, can help.  It promotes deep relaxation and balance of energy in the body, which brings a feeling of well-being and allows for the transformation of negative energy which blocks feelings of connectedness into positive energy, opening you to the ability to connect with yourself and others.   

You’ll be amazed at how good you feel after receiving Reiki!  You’ll feel a sense of calm, increased compassion for yourself and others, and reduced stress.  Colors can even seem brighter!   

I am available for Reiki treatments at Milford Body Therapy, 318 New Haven Ave, Unit D, Milford, CT.  Call or email me for appointment, 203-258-0841 or shaileen@seekyourcenter.com

Having a “Girls’ (or guys’) Night In” at your home?  You can schedule me to come, set up in a separate space, and provide Reiki treatments for your guests!  Call for more info, 203-258-0841, or email shaileen@seekyourcenter.com

Let Reiki help you Seek Your Center! 

 

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Living Like a Lab

Those who know me even just a little bit know how crazy I am about my dog, Abby the Labby.  She's cute, cuddly, energetic, and above all, she's HAPPY.    

Abby the Labby lives life with an infectious joy and enthusiasm that can only make anyone around her smile!

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We should all try to emulate Abby in our daily lives and as best we can Live in the Moment.   

Abby doesn't worry about things that might happen. 

She doesn't worry about things that she did yesterday or things she has to do tomorrow.  

She grabs life by the horns (even without thumbs!) and has fun IN THE MOMENT!  

Fun! 

Adventure!  

Tail-wagging, pool-jumping, downtown-walk-taking, people-greeting, snack-eating activity!  

This weekend, let's all set the intention to Live Life Like a Lab and enjoy who we are, where we are, who we're with, and what we're doing.  

Let me know how it goes! 

 

Home Neurofeedback Helps!

Stress, overwhelm, and anxiety are constant companions of many.  I tend to fall into that track and pop those emotions on as well, if I am not vigilant about staying ahead of them to keep them at bay. 

They are very sticky emotions; once they jump on to hitch a ride, they can be really really difficult to shed, just like a squatter who has decided to take up residence in your basement.  "I live here now!" they scream and we can often fall prey to their manipulation instead of looking at them and telling them what to do and where to go rather than the opposite. 

One holistic way I have been using to tame those beasts since Larry died and life got even more stressful is Home Neurofeedback. 

A few weeks after his death I heard about a "Brain Sensing Headband" that works with brainwaves to measure levels of calm.  Audio feedback tells the user how they are doing, and helps the user learn to change their brainwaves to reach a calmer, more meditative state.  This headband, called Muse, has helped me greatly!

I love it so much that I have been talking it up for years.  I think everyone should use it!  I am such a proponent that I've recently become an affiliate for the company.  Now every time someone buys it through me, I can get a commission! 

This brain sensing headband works so well and helps me stay in control of my emotions, (mostly... lol!) as long as I use it on a regular basis.  It's also helped me achieve a deep meditative state much more quickly than I ever thought possible! 

Please comment below with any questions about my experience with Muse.  I hope you try it and love it as much as I have!  Here is the link: Muse Brain Sensing Headband

Let me know if you try it! :)

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Love Your Accountant? Help them Survive Tax Season.

As the days go by from the end of January and get closer and closer to tax day, they get more stressed as their lives become more and more hectic, working diligently to get their clients' State, Local, and Federal taxes done.  While still working on their regular accounting "stuff!"  (I don't even pretend to understand what they do but they're super busy even when it ISN'T Tax Season!)

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Mommy Story- Just One of Many

Last night I was asked by a dear friend who is also the mother of a beloved, precious, and absolutely precocious preschooler for a mommy story.  I’ve been a mommy (although now simply called Mom) of a beloved son for the past 26 and ¾ years.  I have many, many mommy stories. 

Before our children come into our lives, be it through marriage to their birth parent, adoption, or giving birth to them, we have notions.  We ALL have notions! 

“That is not acceptable behavior.” Was my biggest notion.

I was going to be the first mother on the face of the Earth to be able to have a rational conversation with her child about why what she or he had done was not okay.   HA!  So naïve…  

1997 was a difficult year.  My first marriage had fallen apart and my husband had left for points unknown, leaving me with no financial support.  I was suddenly a single mom of a 7 year old son, and came down with Mono as the cherry on top. 
 

One day when I was feeling a little better, I let my son have a couple of friends over to play.  Since it was raining, the kids were in the house, and my sister and brother-in-law had come by to visit.  We adults sat in the kitchen, and were able to hear my son being very very mean to his friends.  I was mortified.  This normally nice kid was acting like a total jerk…

I called him over and took him in the bathroom to scold him.  I was angry, so, so angry.  I was so angry that I found it impossible to produce any words!  Unintelligible noises came out of my mouth and my son, like anyone else would have, started to laugh. 

Then Mommy lost her sh**.  I shouted “Don’t laugh at me!” and (I know, I know,) spanked him hard on the bottom.

He flew out of the bathroom and went to his room.  I took a minute to breathe deeply, then went out to the kitchen to find my sister and brother-in-law shaking in their chairs, laughing so hard they had tears running down my face.

I am not a huge advocate of spanking.  It is appropriate on a limited basis in certain circumstances, but that was not one of them.  I was ashamed of myself for acting in that manner.

My son and I got through it, though, and now that he’s an adult we laugh about my overreaction.  I look at him now, a responsible, happy, successful man; a husband, homeowner, and professional, and realize that one of the sayings that has come down through the generations in my family is very true.

“Kids grow up despite their parents.”

We all make parenting mistakes.  As long as we learn from them, keep our senses of humor, and show our children that we love and respect them, all should be well. 

And we can’t forget to forgive ourselves!