Two thumbs up from me for Brené Brown's new book Rising Strong! ... I love her ability to take common experiences and frame them in a very relatable way that helps the reader understand that this lady gets it. She has been there, done that, and done deep work to progress in her relationships with herself and also others. In this book she takes her experiences and knowledge (she is a Ph.D and LMSW) to give concrete advice that the average person can use to move forward and grow.Read More
This wonderful video shows a new trend that is developing to allow those doctors, nurses, respiratory therapists, aides, and all others in attendance at a death to perform a bit of "self-care" and reflect on the person who passed and their own feelings.Read More
I've had a huge loss. My husband was my love, my life, my companion, my friend, and we had planned to spend the rest of our lives together. Without him, I think "What the heck do I do now?"
I am afraid to start over. But I have to get past that; to realize that he wouldn't want me to remain stagnant and wallow, but rather to identify what it is that I really want, then grab the bull by the horns and go for it. I can hear him in the back of my mind saying "What's stopping you?"
The first thing, I guess, is figuring out how I want the rest of my life to be. What I want to achieve, experience, feel, and contribute. Only then can I come up with a game plan. How do I do this? No idea, but I have no doubt I will figure it out in time with patience, prayer, introspection, and action.
I don’t know about you, but I was raised to be responsible. Very, very responsible. I was able to take on many tasks and carry heavy loads because I was always so responsible. Gave up weekends, felt compelled to care for others’ needs without worrying about myself because of fear of looking selfish and an inflated sense of responsibility. Feeling that things I had no control over were somehow my fault. Because I was very responsible.
Superheroes get their logos- Superman his “S”, Wonder Woman her “WW”, and Batman his bat. I have always worn my “R” proudly.
Lately, though, I have worked on reducing my tendency to overcommit and worry. Sometimes it feels like I am guilty of the crime of “Evading Responsibility.” (yes, I know it has to do with car accidents, but it just seems to fit.) I recognize that not every negative or unpleasant thing that happens around me is my fault, and I need not take on other people’s failures. There is so much in the world I can’t control but if I take personal responsibility for what I can impact, and let others take charge of their own, I can have much more peace of mind.
I wonder if other people are in the same boat? Do you have the same tendencies? If you do, what helps? Do you set limits? Meditate? Exercise?
I have a feeling there are many of us out there who take on far too much out of a feeling of duty and responsibility. Here at Seek Your Center I’ll be exploring and sharing ways to help my own peace of mind, and others at the same time. Not because I feel responsible for you, but because I care, and the world will be a much better place.