I've had a huge loss. My husband was my love, my life, my companion, my friend, and we had planned to spend the rest of our lives together. Without him, I think "What the heck do I do now?"
I am afraid to start over. But I have to get past that; to realize that he wouldn't want me to remain stagnant and wallow, but rather to identify what it is that I really want, then grab the bull by the horns and go for it. I can hear him in the back of my mind saying "What's stopping you?"
The first thing, I guess, is figuring out how I want the rest of my life to be. What I want to achieve, experience, feel, and contribute. Only then can I come up with a game plan. How do I do this? No idea, but I have no doubt I will figure it out in time with patience, prayer, introspection, and action.