It’s ok to laugh at a funeral Mass. It’s ok to cry too, but that is expected.Read more
I read somewhere a tip about receiving food in the days and weeks after a loved one dies. This is something I experienced in force, since my husband was a chef, and that apparently means I had no idea how to cook. LOL… And I have a lot of friends who LOVE to cook, so my fridge was quickly filled, and I wondered how on earth I was going to eat all that food!
The tip I read was to accept all food that people deliver to you. You don’t have to eat it; it can be packaged and frozen for later use, or even thrown away if it’s something you wouldn’t eat.
When somebody dies, the people surrounding the bereaved want to do something to ease a pain that is really impossible to soothe. Friends and family feel helpless as they see their loved one cry, sit in shock, and try to put one foot in front of the other, and cooking and delivering food to the bereaved is a concrete action they can take.
If you look at the casserole, pot of soup, crock of beans, or other meal and feel overwhelmed by the amount of food coming in, invite the cook to join you in eating it- that way you get the benefit of some physical and also emotional nourishment, and you’ll both reap the reward of the kindness. Them by seeing you eat what they made for you with love, and you by connecting with someone at a time when you feel so alone.